In
many
instances,
it
can
be
difficult
to
find
time
to
catch
up
with
friends.
People
often
use
applications
to
make
it
easier
to
coordinate
different
schedules,
and
other
people
just
message
each
other
back
and
forth
until
an
agreeable
time
is
decided.
Many
professionals
have
admins
help
them
schedule
catch-ups,
and
this
is
completely
appropriate
for
business
matters.
However,
there
is
a
trend
among
some
people
to
use
admins
to
schedule
catch-ups
with
friends,
and
this
practice
rubs
me
the
wrong
way.
I
first
experienced
someone
in
my
personal
life
using
an
admin
to
schedule
a
catch-up
shortly
after
I
graduated
from
law
school.
I
sought
career
advice
from
a
close
relative
with
whom
I
did
not
have
too
much
contact
for
the
preceding
five
years
or
so.
This
relative
suggested
that
I
reach
out
to
his
admin
to
put
some
time
on
the
calendar
to
talk.
It
did
not
feel
great
to
be
treated
so
coldly
—
like
a
business
associate
—
by
a
close
relative,
but
I
figured
that
this
relative
was
much
older
than
me
and
either
didn’t
understand
technology
or
was
old
school
in
his
practices.
I
therefore
reached
out
to
his
admin
and
scheduled
a
time
to
speak.
Later
in
my
career,
I
became
reacquainted
with
someone
I
was
close
with
in
college.
This
person
suggested
that
we
catch
up
since
we
might
be
able
to
help
each
other
out
in
a
professional
capacity
and
so
that
we
could
update
each
other
on
our
personal
lives.
This
friend
suggested
that
I
reach
out
to
her
admin
to
schedule
time
to
talk.
This
rubbed
me
the
wrong
way.
I
had
known
this
friend
for
well
over
a
decade
and
had
memories
of
this
person
as
a
college
kid.
It
did
not
feel
right
that
this
friend
directed
me
to
an
admin
rather
than
personally
schedule
time
to
talk,
and
I
wondered
if
the
friend
was
interjecting
her
admin
into
our
affairs
just
to
flex.
I
ended
up
begrudgingly
communicating
with
the
admin
to
set
up
some
time
to
meet,
but
this
was
more
trouble
than
it
was
worth.
Rather
than
communicate
directly
with
my
friend
on
times
that
worked
and
which
details
were
most
satisfactory,
we
had
to
play
a
game
of
“telephone”
through
the
admin.
It
would
have
been
much
easier
to
just
communicate
with
my
friend
directly,
especially
since
we
probably
could
have
set
up
a
time
to
speak
in
a
few
text
messages.
Recently,
I
was
talking
to
someone
who
told
me
that
a
friend
made
her
go
through
an
admin
to
set
up
a
time
to
talk,
so
I
know
this
phenomenon
is
not
exclusive
to
just
me.
I
am
not
sure
what
goes
through
people’s
minds
when
they
direct
friends
to
their
admins
to
schedule
times
to
talk.
Perhaps
at
some
level,
this
is
more
convenient
for
the
person,
since
it
takes
some
communications
off
their
plate
and
delegates
those
tasks
to
an
admin.
Also,
people
might
have
different
perceptions
of
a
relationship
and
may
perceive
some
individuals
as
work
contacts
that
should
be
treated
like
anybody
else
connected
to
a
business.
At
some
level,
people
with
admins
might
want
to
flex
that
they
have
an
admin,
since
this
might
convey
some
kind
of
message
about
how
successful
they
are.
However,
people
should
think
about
potential
reactions
when
they
decide
whether
to
refer
a
friend
to
an
admin
or
just
schedule
a
time
to
meet
themselves.
A
friend
might
not
appreciate
being
referred
to
an
admin
since
this
seems
cold
and
does
not
reflect
a
connection
that
a
friend
might
think
they
have
with
a
given
person.
Also,
it
might
just
be
easier
for
everyone
to
leave
admins
out
of
scheduling
and
just
let
people
communicate
directly.
Jordan
Rothman
is
a
partner
of
The
Rothman
Law
Firm,
a
full-service
New
York
and
New
Jersey
law
firm.
He
is
also
the
founder
of
Student
Debt
Diaries,
a
website
discussing
how
he
paid
off
his
student
loans.
You
can
reach
Jordan
through
email
at
[email protected].